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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2070 on: January 18, 2010, 03:58:29 pm »
Either that................or he is drunk again  :-\
What good is dreaming it if you don't actually do it?.

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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2071 on: January 18, 2010, 03:58:54 pm »
I'm at work... of course I'm drunk *PMSL*
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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2072 on: January 18, 2010, 04:03:21 pm »
work is the best time to be drunk

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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2073 on: January 18, 2010, 04:06:12 pm »
Well what do expect from some one who works out of his shed? lol
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« Reply #2074 on: January 18, 2010, 04:15:33 pm »
xP Virgins

Clumsy drunks aside, a little social lubricant can be quite good for sex, though ;P

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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2075 on: January 18, 2010, 04:16:41 pm »
aye and it landed me in a three year engament  :-\
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« Reply #2076 on: January 18, 2010, 04:18:10 pm »
Ouch

I've always tried to make it quite clear that sex is just sex >.>

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« Reply #2077 on: January 18, 2010, 04:23:33 pm »
I dunno... Lack of confidence makes for bad sex.

I can't get girls even when I am confident, so the point is moot.

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« Reply #2078 on: January 18, 2010, 04:31:04 pm »
Your first time will probably be not so hot.

But the goal would be to be with a girl you're really comfortable with, and then get lots of practice. >.>

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« Reply #2079 on: January 18, 2010, 04:38:38 pm »
Your first time will probably be not so hot.

But the goal would be to be with a girl you're really comfortable with, and then get lots of practice. >.>


Yeah...it's not easy for me to get comfortable with people.

I'm not so concerned with sucking. Just not getting the chance to suck. (yes, yes, you can laugh at that)

There's only one person I'd be comfortable doing anything with at the moment, and she's all up with the emotional hang-ups about relationships.

I suppose ultimately, the problem is for me the whole interpersonal relationships thing is too inter-connected.
Like, I'm the type of person that can't separate sex from love. I can't even feel lust for someone I don't love.
And for me to love someone, I need to be good friends with them or otherwise have some reason to achknowledge them as a worthwhile human being.

So yeah, prerequisites are a bitch. I've tried being more open-minded than that, but, it just won't fly with the way I operate.
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« Reply #2080 on: January 18, 2010, 05:42:07 pm »
My side of the river has problems too, I get into trouble because I'm unemotional about it.

And I'm -almost- regretful about the times I've felt love for the people I've slept with. (fuck regret though)

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« Reply #2081 on: January 18, 2010, 06:52:06 pm »
mm ... this is all very deep ...

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« Reply #2082 on: January 18, 2010, 06:52:41 pm »
My side of the river has problems too, I get into trouble because I'm unemotional about it.

And I'm -almost- regretful about the times I've felt love for the people I've slept with. (fuck regret though)

Yeah. I mean, it's not like I automatically fall in love with anyone I have a twinge of attraction for (i.e. the Dulcinea effect).
I *am* unemotional. Until I'm suddenly not. Then confusion sets in.
In high school I flirted with girls all the time.
But I just didn't care enough about anything to pursue that angle, because...I just didn't care.
Now, I -almost- regret not at least trying something when I could have, since now I'm all closed off.
I don't even know what I'm talking about. I contradicted myself from three times in this post.

My thought processes to not translate well into the Queen's English!
I'd probably fix a lot of my problems if I could just figure out what the heck it is I'm actually after.

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« Reply #2083 on: January 18, 2010, 07:12:17 pm »
@CDSM: Basically, you're usually one extreme or the other.  Hot or cold but rarely in-between.

You're either very stand-offish or very intense.
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« Reply #2084 on: January 18, 2010, 07:26:59 pm »
@CDSM: Basically, you're usually one extreme or the other.  Hot or cold but rarely in-between.

You're either very stand-offish or very intense.

Yes. That's it entirely.

And both extremes turn people off. And if I try to tone things down, it just makes me seem too shy.

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« Reply #2085 on: January 18, 2010, 07:53:25 pm »
Thats where the whole ability to talk shit comes in generally.

Most people like yourself (this might not be exactly correct for yourself in particular) can't talk easily with people they don't know very well and the people they do know well enough are usually brought into intense conversations.

The ability to talk shit pretty much involves talking about inconsequential things without getting too deep or intense about them.  Heck, making jokes as you do and pretty much just keeping the situation light.  You might enjoy the company you're with but if they get up to go talk to someone else you do fine to talk to those who are left or find someone else to talk shit with.

The best examples I can come up with are guys or girls who strike up a conversation with you as you're getting a drink from the bar.  Once-upon-a-time I used to find this quite awkward as I didn't know what the hell to say to complete strangers or how to treat the situation.  But since then I've learned to be more casual and return the conversation.  Heck, allow it to flow and enjoy the sudden stimulation of someone new to talk to.

Learning this pretty much comes down to just doing it and keeping a tab on yourself.  It's quite difficult at first and you struggle but as you work on it the whole thing basically becomes more natural... sort of like that exercise example in the other thread I made about struggling with a casual walk but working on it constantly until it becomes easy just from sheer persistence.  Heck, there's certainly books out there on it but its sort of like reading a book on martial arts.  To master it you have to put the theory into practice on a continual basis.  Once you got that you'll find your intensity in the closer relationships you have will also be easier to keep casual.
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« Reply #2086 on: January 18, 2010, 07:57:44 pm »
Thats where the whole ability to talk shit comes in generally.

Most people like yourself (this might not be exactly correct for yourself in particular) can't talk easily with people they don't know very well and the people they do know well enough are usually brought into intense conversations.

The ability to talk shit pretty much involves talking about inconsequential things without getting too deep or intense about them.  Heck, making jokes as you do and pretty much just keeping the situation light.  You might enjoy the company you're with but if they get up to go talk to someone else you do fine to talk to those who are left or find someone else to talk shit with.

The best examples I can come up with are guys or girls who strike up a conversation with you as you're getting a drink from the bar.  Once-upon-a-time I used to find this quite awkward as I didn't know what the hell to say to complete strangers or how to treat the situation.  But since then I've learned to be more casual and return the conversation.  Heck, allow it to flow and enjoy the sudden stimulation of someone new to talk to.

Learning this pretty much comes down to just doing it and keeping a tab on yourself.  It's quite difficult at first and you struggle but as you work on it the whole thing basically becomes more natural... sort of like that exercise example in the other thread I made about struggling with a casual walk but working on it constantly until it becomes easy just from sheer persistence.  Heck, there's certainly books out there on it but its sort of like reading a book on martial arts.  To master it you have to put the theory into practice on a continual basis.  Once you got that you'll find your intensity in the closer relationships you have will also be easier to keep casual.

Oh, God...how tedious.  :P

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Re: The Chat Thread
« Reply #2087 on: January 18, 2010, 08:00:20 pm »
Heck you already have the skill down pretty good around here.  Sure you get some strong discussions but you've got a very good mix of casual discussion in your forum chatter as well, so it's pretty much a drive for that balance.

But trust me... meetings at the bar can lead you to some wild adventures *lol*
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« Reply #2088 on: January 18, 2010, 08:04:02 pm »
./yawn

you do make it sound tedious. ;P

Talking shit about stuff I'm interested in with interesting people is one thing, but....

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« Reply #2089 on: January 18, 2010, 08:08:54 pm »
Heck you already have the skill down pretty good around here.  Sure you get some strong discussions but you've got a very good mix of casual discussion in your forum chatter as well, so it's pretty much a drive for that balance.

But trust me... meetings at the bar can lead you to some wild adventures *lol*

I don't know where any good bars are around here.

./yawn

you do make it sound tedious. ;P

Talking shit about stuff I'm interested in with interesting people is one thing, but....

It's because I don't know enough black people.

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« Reply #2090 on: January 18, 2010, 08:10:51 pm »
Well... I'm not saying to not be picky or anything.  If someone tries to strike up a conversation and it's tedious then obviously you bail but shit talk can be interesting. Heck check out the sex thread *lol* or many of the other random, crazy threads in this forum.  Lots of shit talk about unimportant crap but plenty of interesting stuff to.

@CDSM: Ask Churba or Akashayi.  They probably know a good bar at just about any location around the globe *lol*
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« Reply #2091 on: January 18, 2010, 08:13:37 pm »
"Hey baby, let me just whip out my casual conversation and we can get this party started" ?

:P

I have tons of trouble talking with women though, finding common ground for conversation but... I'm just not interested in girls or ...people that don't share similar interests anyway. Problem solved.

Also, CDSM, the clubs I go to are filled with geeks and are generally awesome. If you're ever in LA and want to go out for a drink, or anything, I'd be happy to take you out :)

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« Reply #2092 on: January 18, 2010, 08:16:38 pm »
"Hey baby, let me just whip out my casual conversation and we can get this party started" ?

:P

I have tons of trouble talking with women though, finding common ground for conversation but... I'm just not interested in girls or ...people that don't share similar interests anyway. Problem solved.

Also, CDSM, the clubs I go to are filled with geeks and are generally awesome. If you're ever in LA and want to go out for a drink, or anything, I'd be happy to take you out :)

I just live in a crap part of the States.
Once I get money from my novel, I'm leaving this side of the country.

And you know, the funny thing, it isn't that I prefer women in general, it's just all the women i grew up knowing were more manly than the male friends I had.
The men I knew were all losers or pussies.
I ain't had no real hardcore brothers.

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« Reply #2093 on: January 18, 2010, 08:17:29 pm »
exec pickupline.sh > vocal
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« Reply #2094 on: January 18, 2010, 08:20:52 pm »
Anybody here ever engage in the "Dozens"?

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« Reply #2095 on: January 18, 2010, 08:22:40 pm »
google says:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_dozens

Is that what you speak of? I think every gamer has engaged in epic trash talking battles.

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« Reply #2096 on: January 18, 2010, 08:29:45 pm »
google says:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_dozens

Is that what you speak of? I think every gamer has engaged in epic trash talking battles.

I had a real black man compliment my mastery of insult battles.

To be fair, though, I knew his weakness.

It's actually good for confidence-building. It teaches you how to weather an accusation and come back with something even crazier.

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« Reply #2097 on: January 18, 2010, 08:37:46 pm »
Sounds like a generic Australian conversation *lol*
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« Reply #2098 on: January 18, 2010, 08:38:42 pm »
Except without the lighting each other on fire bit.

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« Reply #2099 on: January 18, 2010, 08:41:13 pm »
Sounds like a generic Australian conversation *lol*

The obesity of your female parent is so great...