Screw the edit, I'll just give you the short version - It's not her Fault, in a way. I'm not making an excuse or anything like that - the full responsibility of her actions still lies with her, but there is a severe third party factor to consider.
Salubi is wonderful. She's really the best person I've ever known - I mean, shit, she put up with a dead-end, useless, lazy unmotivated no-hoper like I was when she first met me in person. She never gave up on me, helped me, taught me a lot of things like compassion and caring, kindness, and trust. We fit together like two pieces of a puzzle, and she made me happier and healthier than I'd been in a long time. We intended to get married when we came over here - and I gave up everything to be with her. My family, my friends, my home, and even an offer for a job that's been my dream for a very long time, that she gave me the courage to follow in the first place.
The problem is that she hurt her back while she was in Australia, and made it worse when she came back to england(a month before I arrived) working at a cafe. She went to the doctor, and I know that the doctor put her on very strong drugs - I suspect that it's Diazepam, as her behavior and presented symptoms, both at the time and in the 10 months I've been here, line up all to well for it to be mere coincidence. She's become someone that the Salubi you all know, that her friends know, that I knew, would be disgusted with.
Well, that was a week before I arrived. Three weeks after I arrived, she left for university - another one of my stupid mistakes. She wanted to go to Newcastle(because I could live in a larger city like newcastle, and it's a good uni), and I convinced her to go to Aberystwyth(Because even though I couldn't live in Aber, and I knew this, it's a vastly superior university to newcastle for her course) because I didn't want her to have a second-rate education just because of me - I'm not worth that.
Well, that's where things went wrong. I won't drag everyone into the minuate of the relationship, but suffice it to say, she cheated on me. She also lied to me heavily, and strung me along for quite a while, and treated me very badly - Things like making no attempt to contact me, not paying any attention to my attempts to contact her, and then going off at me because I hadn't been in contact, and as I said before with the begging for forgiveness to the point of humiliation because I called her out for lying.
Enter even more trouble - Her new boyfriend. A rich, arrogant london scumbag, from Mitcham, Surrey. I know a lot about him - he made some threats, so I went and dug deep, found out a lot of very unsavory things that I decline to discuss in a public forum like this.
He's been putting stupid ideas in her head, lying about me, so on, so fourth. Not a nice guy, really. He's even gone to the point of when catherine did something he didn't approve of - which was Seeing me over easter(which went well, but we ended up having a big argument over a misunderstanding) - he revealed to her that he'd "Discovered" who was behind this fake facebook account, "Jessica Baum", telling her it was me - when it was actually a fake account he set up himself, using a spare e-mail account of mine that he'd gotten into - It was really stupid, really obvious(some people figured it out most of the way even before I did)
He'd also been spying on my Facebook and Gmail account for quite a while - and as I mentioned earlier in the thread, had my house sprayed up.
He also had been peppering me with "Anonymous"(He's not as smart as he thinks he is, and left a digital trail that an Amish priest could follow) e-mails, with pictures of them together, taunting messages, all sorts of things like that - and when I accidentally caught him on the phone once, and he threatened me, and said some horrible things about Salubi that absolutely defy belief.
He's also been cheating on her pretty much from the start, with more than one girl. Salubi Caught him recently, and got rid of him - but took him back, and while I've been told of what he convinced her of to get her back, I don't know for sure, so I'm not talking about it.
I'll give him credit, though, he's got a pair of stones on him. Not only did he convince salubi to take his sorry arse back, and made her think she'd done something wrong in the process, he told the other girl that he'd gotten rid of salubi, that she had been a horrible bitch to him, but that he forgave her after she begged to be with him again and cried to him about how horrible she'd been, though he told her that they could only be friends, and that she's really broken up about it and still wants him back, but he keeps telling her that he loves the other girl, to her distress, and that she's so heartbroken about it that she's barely eating and barely doing anything.
That's a serious pair of balls, chucklenuts. I can't wait till somebody kicks you right in them.
What makes it all the more painful - not long after she got to uni, she came back and took the time to come see me - and she was my Salubi again, as if the past time had never happened. That lasted all of a week, maximum, and then she was back to being who or whatever that she has become now - and also, it makes it all the more unlikely that there is no outside factor in her behavior.
Sure, people change, but they don't change so absolutely in a week, and then change back just as rapidly after a month or so, and then change again even more rapidly.
But, that's the deal, in short. You should see the long version.