Yes but it does come back to the old point I've made here and there that she didn't push our relationship into becoming a destructive one alone.
WE turned it into a destructive one together.
By accepting her verbal and mental abuse and, to a good extent, rewarding her for dishing it out to me, I encouraged it and set in her subconscious that this was the way to deal with me and thus, encouraged it to become the set standard and even grow proportionally.
I hit a breaking point with it a little over a year ago and we went to some marriage counseling and sought to try and break out of the routine, but while things improved a bit I think it's too deeply entrenched in us by this stage to eradicate or improve much more. I believe we're both better off moving on with our lives. Beyond that, the best bet is to probably live apart for a month or more then move back in and maybe that would put a sort of "reset" on the whole cycle.
Seriously though, I'm not depressed, angry or even worried here. The thought of this all being resolved one way or the other is actually a bit of a relief and I've felt better than ever for the past week.
...But I'll take the hug anyway *GLOMP*
Seriously... who would turn down a free hug