I confess I do think you sound like an ass saying that, UIS.
But at the same thime, I understand you. If I married a hot guy, and he suddenly became fat and unattractive, I would look at others from the corner of my eye too - even if just as eye candy.
thanks for the concession, Razz. Unfortunately my wife is neither fat nor unattractive, so I can't really use that excuse.
I think it's probably just culture shock and hopefully will pass. But I mean really, you should see the women over here. It's insane. In. Sane. It's not just me either, we all notice it - and most of the foreigners (non-Taiwanese) I know here are married. Well, married to Taiwanese women, but...ok I don't know where I'm going with this.
a huge part of it though is just that girls/women actually try to look pretty here, even when dressing casually. (Well that and the fact that all asian girls automatically have awesome skin and also usually have nice figures - not to mention that short skirts and short shorts are very fashionable and popular here, and not considered slutty or tasteless in the least (nor do they usually look slutty)) In the states, the ones who are trying to look "pretty" often end up looking gross and fake. Because it's like looking "good" is almost a status symbol, starting from high school, consisting of the fake tan, fake eyelashes, fake hair color, and whatever else you can find to fake. But anyway, Rhode Island is not the place to go looking for attractive girls, personalitywise or any other wise. I liked that though, being a married man and all.
It is tough though Razz. Getting married is like turning off half of your life, locking it in a box, and knowing that you can never express that part again. Well maybe for some people it's a different experience, but for me that's what it was like. I never even used to hook up with girls hardly ever, but I was a horrendous flirt in some ways and I crave attention. And my wife is like really sensitive to me even talking to other girls in extremely safe situations. All of my friends before used to be women. I basically just lost all my friends when I met my wife. She never told me to stop hanging around with them in so many words, but it bothered her so much if I spent any time with them or even talked to them when she was also there that after a while it just was never worth it. It sucked. It's not my favorite part of my wife. But there was a sexual flirty aspect too with my "friends", and my wife always saw right through that. So I can't entirely blame her. I guess. In some ways she helped me out actually. I think I have friends for better reasons now, and we're more deeper of friends too.
It's definitely, definitely worth it, all of it, but that doesn't mean it's always easy. It's not like I'm having second thoughts about being married or anything, but I'm not old enough that I don't still have some of my animal nature left. Anyway I know that there's probably no one in the world I could get along with as well as I get along with her (ok theoretically there could be infinitely many people that I might get along with better, but I got pretty lucky in ending up starting a family with someone that I really really like and am continually stimulated by in many ways).
Ok I'm not making much sense here. It's too late right now. Sorry to ramble on...time to go listen to some Tori Amos and Meat Loaf until I drift off into peaceful slumber...maybe the Rent soundtrack, that never gets old...
I confess that I've been writing/rereading this post for about 100 years and got ninja'd by Churba.