Thanks! That's what I did today. I explained that I believe that she carries a lot of "emotional baggage", not in so many words, but I pointed out some examples that illustrate this point pretty clearly, and presented it in the context of "If you don't get some help, I don't think I can stay." She agreed for a second, and then went right back to attacking me brutally. After she had had her fill, she was in a great mood, chatting with family and friends happily on her phone, while I was left...well I actually was pretty okay because of some meditation techniques and a book I've been reading by Eckhart Tolle. I was able to "ground out" or breathe through a lot of the emotion she was throwing at me and not get involved in it, but I was still reeling somewhat just from the concentration and from flowing with all those hurtful words.
I don't want to talk badly about her. (and by that I mean I would LOVE to talk badly about her, but it just wouldn't be right) I have my own part in this, and part of it is not sitting in my own truth fully, and therefore blaming her for a lot of stuff and directing a lot of anger towards her, where a lot of problems could have been avoided if I had just taken responsibility for my part, my role in everything, or just being conscious of what I've been doing sometimes subconsciously to her.
And by that I mean basically just stepping up and making decisions that need to be made, rather than just allowing things to happen passively or half-assedly and then getting butthurt about the outcome and as a result being shitty to her for no reason that has anything to do with the situation at hand.
But anyway, I think I learned something today: I don't really expect her to change her ways. She seems very content to stay where she's at, whereas I am always internally focused, trying to get better and better, always seeking the next level of success, peace, power, and clarity...not that I'm at a high level, but that's what I'm interested in, personally progressing in different ways.