But the thing about rape is that it's NOT your decision.
And yet, if you are drunk, it still is your choice. Maybe a different choice than if you were sober, but that was your fault.
Having too many beers? Totally your decision. Having the cute frat guy you were flirting with sneak you into his room & then rape you & possibly invite his buddies to join in - not something your drinking absolves him (and/or them) of.
OR, getting drunk and saying to said frat boy, "Hey, let's go fuck". And he's like, "Okay." Is that rape then?
Even if he threw back a few his impaired judgment does not excuse him from committing a crime.
No, but if a drunk girl says “Come get some” you can’t really fault him for going for it.
As for two drunk people having sex with each other, well, if neither one of them wanted to have sex with the other person & both were so wasted that they were unconscious and/or physically unable to escape the scenario due to the motor f!#$king up effects of excessive alcohol, well, I just don't see how sex could possibly have happened between them in the first place, lol. I don't mean to say that drunken one night stands are non-consensual sex. A woman going to a bar to seek a sexual encounter, using alcohol to help her ease into the situation & then feeling awkward about it in the morning is not rape.
Yeah, that’s exactly what I’m talking about here. Not about some guy sneaking into your dorm and raping you while you are passed out. Which is exactly what I said in the first place.
I'm sure proponents of stricter rape laws don't mean for what was previously called "embarrassing sex" to be considered rape. But if the only reason you got to have sex with that girl was because you bought her drink after drink until she couldn't even walk out of the bar w/out help & then you decided to have sex with her while she was passed out then I'm sorry but I think that's not only a terrible breach of trust but a crime. Having sex with unconscious person is just not cool. I would no more condone it for the coma victim than the petite blond who doesn't know it's one tequila, two tequila, three tequila shots & then floor.
But if she’s not passed out and she invites you to it, I still say its fine. Unless you want to assign some ultra-responsibility to guys to estimate whether or not a girl would really say the same thing if she was sober.