Well, honestly the way I go about choking someone for real in martial arts/whatever and in bed are completely different. There are different ways to go about this. Slight asphyxiation and choking also yield different results in play. The first leads to a sort of erotic high, while the second causes more of a flight or fight response and leads to the pumping of adrenaline.
I think the best fun is asphyxiation in a sexual situation, it can greatly enhance orgasms. If you're into that sort of thing. I've been on the receiving end of this as well. I can definitely say that gently cutting of part of the oxygen supply in bed can lead to a certain erotic high.
Also, just because you're not into the 'hardcore' sides of bdsm, doesn't mean a little bit of kink might not be right for you. It's not like everyone in the scene is into all the same stuff. It's just like anything else- Anal, for instance, isn't for everyone- even though it's great fun for others.
Honestly, if you don't trust someone that completely, you shouldn't even have them dom you in lighter ways. What I appreciate the most about bdsm experiences (other than being an evil, evil sadist) is the level of trust and connection involved. I think that might be the key for you Pozf, is just finding someone you can trust 100%, bdsm or no. Whenever that happens. There's no real rush!
Ok cuties, then here's a softer question.
Have any of you played with bondage in sex, or thought about it? Anything from fluffy handcuffs and belts to delicious hemp rope hog ties and full suspension, we're talking immobilization. Does this excite you?
I highly suggest you all pick up some bondage tape and do some research with a few 'quickies' and report back with your mathematical analysis. XD