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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #30 on: April 21, 2009, 01:04:33 pm »
Choking is dangerous. I don't care what Doms say, it is seriously something I would NEVER allow anyone to do on me, or recommend to anyone. I'm sorry Akasha, but it's true, and most serious BDSM-sites say the same.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #31 on: April 22, 2009, 01:26:40 am »
Sky diving is dangerous. As is Bungee jumping and a whole range of activities that thrill seekers enjoy.

I've never done choking and I'd never argue that it's safe but I will say that the danger and the trust put into someone to perfom such an act on yourself is probably a big part of the thrill.

Granted, it's not everyone's cup of tea.  Some find the fear and thought of it exciting while others, such as yourself, evidently just find it scary as hell and thats perfectly alright.  No use doing something unnecessary that frightens you but doesn't excite you.

EDIT: Just want to add that anyone who does such a thing without research is nothing but a fool.  If you plan/want to do anything like that I'd definately tell you to do your homework and make sure you understand the dangers, consequences and best practices before proceeding.  To do otherwise and proceed is idiocy
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #32 on: April 22, 2009, 02:11:26 am »
Charles: Seriously though. I wouldn't compare adrenaline-kick-crazy-stuff to choking.

What if a mistake happens and the sub dies? Who'll be there to tell the police that it was a mistake and not murder? Parachutes can't be charged with murder. I've spoken to many doms, and like I said, most say they don't condone choking because it's too dangerous.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #33 on: April 22, 2009, 02:41:03 am »
I'd imagine that a sub dying would result in the same treatment by police on a dom as they would on someone who incorrectly packed the parachute of a fellow sky diver (granted, I think in most cases it's considered correct procedure for each man to pack his own and is even law in a few places).

Choking probably exists in much the same arena as base jumping.  A good deal of the sky-diving community themselves don't condone it and it's certainly more dangerous but never-the-less it's practiced.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #34 on: April 22, 2009, 04:00:27 am »
Choking and knife/needle play does not apeal to me, was more into the sensory depravation side.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #35 on: April 22, 2009, 07:29:56 am »
I'm not that attracted to either of them myself.  The choking I can understand there is probably a thrill with the risk taken and a certain level of euphoria by the lack of oxygen, but there's not real pain.  Unlike knife and needle play that involve actual cutting, obviously causing pain and injury possibly with permanent scarring.  Most people prone to this probably have tattos and piercings, thus giving them an idea of the pain and maybe an appreciation for it.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #36 on: April 22, 2009, 09:25:49 am »
Well, honestly the way I go about choking someone for real in martial arts/whatever and in bed are completely different. There are different ways to go about this. Slight asphyxiation and choking also yield different results in play. The first leads to a sort of erotic high, while the second causes more of a flight or fight response and leads to the pumping of adrenaline.

I think the best fun is asphyxiation in a sexual situation, it can greatly enhance orgasms. If you're into that sort of thing. I've been on the receiving end of this as well. I can definitely say that gently cutting of part of the oxygen supply in bed can lead to a certain erotic high.

Also, just because you're not into the 'hardcore' sides of bdsm, doesn't mean a little bit of kink might not be right for you. It's not like everyone in the scene is into all the same stuff. It's just like anything else- Anal, for instance, isn't for everyone-  even though it's great fun for others.

Honestly, if you don't trust someone that completely, you shouldn't even have them dom you in lighter ways. What I appreciate the most about bdsm experiences (other than being an evil, evil sadist) is the level of trust and connection involved. I think that might be the key for you Pozf, is just finding someone you can trust 100%, bdsm or no. Whenever that happens. There's no real rush!

Ok cuties, then here's a softer question.
Have any of you played with bondage in sex, or thought about it? Anything from fluffy handcuffs and belts to delicious hemp rope hog ties and full suspension, we're talking immobilization. Does this excite you?

I highly suggest you all pick up some bondage tape and do some research with a few 'quickies' and report back with your mathematical analysis. XD

Bondage is the sexy part about The whole BDSM thing for me. Like sometimes I see a random coffee table book with girls tied up in ropes and stuff and I have to rub one out Immediately! POST HASTE I TELL YOU! (Incedently, I usually identify more with the girl in any porno scenerio, I don't know why, i.e. when two girls do lesbian stuff together I imagine that my pussy is being licked ect).

The idea of being helpless just makes me so hot. Gary has said a couple times that he would tie me up, but we never do...
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« Reply #37 on: April 22, 2009, 11:40:13 pm »
I swear to God I have Never said that.  This guy is lying!!  (he does rub 'em out constantly though, usually on people's coffee tables-that part is true..)

(yes, it seems in fact that I share a first name with Ronin's boyfriend :-[...wow.  Well, I was planning on posting it pretty soon anyway in the intro thread.. :))

edit: why the hell not though Ronin?  (though I'm one to talk, I haven't done it either and I don't know why...though my wife would be the one to be bonded, I'm pretty darn sure she'd like it...oh well, we got a lotta long years ahead of us ::))
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #38 on: April 23, 2009, 10:52:50 am »
Oh, your name is gary too. Well I didn't mean you UIS. Sorry to disappiont you ;).

Mostly becuase my boyfriend dosen't much like sex at all anymore.  :(
He's twice my age, so that's probably a factor. :(
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« Reply #39 on: April 23, 2009, 11:02:32 am »
don't know if I'll get over that man ;_; :D

Wow that's really sad.  I'm sorry to hear that.  I mean, here's a perfectly good horn-dog hanging around idle, forced to watch copious amounts of porn and jizz on every coffee table he comes within sight of!

Well..guess that's why you're playing the field right?
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #40 on: April 23, 2009, 11:30:47 am »
Well "at all" is an exassageration.
We still do it occasionally, but not enough. We were never incredibly sexually compatible. But it's okay becuase we have a great relationship outside the bedroom, and we don't believe in the draconian defention of fidelity that most people do.
Life is a confusing and diffcult place, and I'm thankful for Gary regardless of his sexual voraciousness (or lack thereof).
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #41 on: April 23, 2009, 12:54:55 pm »
Well "at all" is an exassageration.
We still do it occasionally, but not enough. We were never incredibly sexually compatible. But it's okay becuase we have a great relationship outside the bedroom, and we don't believe in the draconian defention of fidelity that most people do.
Life is a confusing and diffcult place, and I'm thankful for Gary regardless of his sexual voraciousness (or lack thereof).
Wow ok that's pretty awesome.  Gone from sad to pretty awesome.  Sorry I made light of you guys' relationship.

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« Reply #42 on: April 23, 2009, 01:05:38 pm »
No problem.

We also contantly bicker like an old married couple.  :P
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« Reply #43 on: April 24, 2009, 02:59:54 pm »
You know no one laughed at my coffee table jizzing jokes here...I thought they were funny :(

not really a joke, more of a visual image...hm.  Gotta try harder I guess.

I just thought, you know, it'd be funny...guy (Ronin) walks into someone's nice clean well-arranged living room, sees bondage "coffee table" book on nice glass table near sofa, is like "Wow hey!  Sweeeeeee-eee-eeee--EEET!!" and lays one down right all over the coffee table, some shooting over and ending up on the nice clean carpet.  The host (30-something upscale woman) is just like :o and Ronin's like "What?!  I had to!  POST-HASTE I TELL YOU!!!" as he zips up happily.

no? not funny?

*sigh* sorry, it's Friday...I have no idea...

on that note I'm going home!!

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« Reply #44 on: April 24, 2009, 03:11:03 pm »
You're a wierdo UIS.
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Have a save drive.
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« Reply #45 on: April 24, 2009, 03:23:02 pm »
and then she gets so hot that she drops down and gives you a BJ right there.

and she's got her hair tied back, so you get to hold on to this tight little bun thing on the back of her head, and it's awesome...ed: and you wink at the camera.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #46 on: April 24, 2009, 03:47:28 pm »
And y'all say I'm the perverted one!  ::)
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #47 on: April 25, 2009, 12:28:26 am »
Take deep breathes umber and breathe into this brown paper bag.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #48 on: April 27, 2009, 07:04:21 am »
ahem...so, anyway, do you people think that the whole BDSM thing is more mainstream/more readily accepted in Europe than in the states?  It's pretty subverted over here (in the States), as far as I can tell.

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« Reply #49 on: April 27, 2009, 07:13:14 am »
I think it is accepted over here. there are two main clubs that hold events every month and there are small meets that happen near me.  have not been able to go since they are always on when im at work.
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« Reply #50 on: May 04, 2009, 05:06:49 pm »
Yeah. Oregon is really liberal and S&M is not very mainstream here. Only occasionaly do I see fliers for events. And it is usually a semi joking basis methinks? What about Canada? Are there any dirty perverts in Canada?  :P
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« Reply #51 on: May 05, 2009, 06:29:17 am »
Once i've got a few things sorted might be getting back into it again.
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« Reply #52 on: May 05, 2009, 09:11:36 am »
Are you seriously into that? Like clubs and stuff? That's cool.
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« Reply #53 on: May 05, 2009, 02:37:13 pm »
Have not been to a club yet still a newbie in the scene
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #54 on: May 05, 2009, 04:47:39 pm »
Huh.

Okay.  :-\
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« Reply #55 on: May 05, 2009, 04:48:36 pm »
And Canadians, at least in the major areas, have plenty of kink. Just look at me, I'm from Canada and I'm a huge perv. ;P

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« Reply #56 on: May 05, 2009, 05:30:33 pm »
My Mom's from Canada. Do you know her?  :P

I wonder if their is a "perverse gene"?  :o
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #57 on: May 06, 2009, 02:06:05 pm »
I like being tied up/tying up. I just don't really like pain. Other then mild spanking. Or whatever.  :'(
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« Reply #58 on: May 07, 2009, 01:42:30 pm »
Do you get tied up often, Ronin? :3
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #59 on: May 07, 2009, 06:29:17 pm »
No specific comments as yet, but overall I feel kind of ambivalent about BDSM. Deep down its just a more creative way to have sex, after all, and one would have to lead a pretty boring life to be satisfied with plain old sex by itself every time.
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