Author Topic: Mistress Akasha's BDSM Playhouse  (Read 75307 times)

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #120 on: May 28, 2009, 06:05:20 am »
Dude it's definitely Lucky Odd.  Just because you don't want your ass whipped doesn't mean others don't...if you don't want your ass whipped stay out of the kitchen!

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #121 on: May 28, 2009, 11:21:21 am »
Wow. It's cool that it worked out for you Oddball. Dating is so sureal these days... :'(
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #122 on: May 29, 2009, 12:37:41 am »
Gave up on dating a long time ago lol or maybe I'm too wierd for some folk out there  ???
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #123 on: May 29, 2009, 12:54:32 am »
Don't give up on dating. Just do it passively.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #124 on: May 30, 2009, 10:42:10 am »
I never was into dating. The idea of basing a relationship on meeting at X place at X time for X reason never really appealed to me.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #125 on: May 30, 2009, 10:59:29 am »
Who says dating has to be like that.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #126 on: May 30, 2009, 01:28:37 pm »
Who says dating has to be like that.

I suppose it depends on how picky you want to be on your definition of the word.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #127 on: May 30, 2009, 05:52:26 pm »
@CDSM:  Well, I guess a better term might be relationships.  Are you into them still and if so, what kind?
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« Reply #128 on: May 30, 2009, 09:22:59 pm »
@CDSM:  Well, I guess a better term might be relationships.  Are you into them still and if so, what kind?

The boring and undramatic kind.  :P

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #129 on: May 31, 2009, 01:04:53 am »
So what, you want to skip right to the content stage of a relationship?
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« Reply #130 on: May 31, 2009, 04:57:22 am »
I don't do the dating thing either.

I just... meet people, and if it goes in that direction then it does. Meeting someone for the sole purpose of perhaps getting laid seems kinda pointless to me.

Perhaps it should be mentioned that I've been single for two years, and that my pervious relationship involved no sex?
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #131 on: May 31, 2009, 03:38:35 pm »
So what, you want to skip right to the content stage of a relationship?

Sure.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #132 on: May 31, 2009, 03:41:26 pm »
rather get to know some one in a casual setting and not calling dating....ok im just strange.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #133 on: May 31, 2009, 03:42:37 pm »
How so that's what multiple of us just said... Well I didn't but am now.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #134 on: May 31, 2009, 03:51:53 pm »
Let me clarify a bit of what I said.
It's not that I dislike excitement or whatever, it's simply I have disdain for the whole "playing games" think where it's all like trying to decieve each other, and trying to look like you're not interested, or trying to be all catsy-and-mousey.

I don't like doing that kind of thing with people I like.

I wanted some kind of contest/challenge, I'd much rather have an enemy to do it against.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #135 on: June 01, 2009, 12:06:17 am »
Depends how you date I guess.

If you like someone and they like you back then its just a happy relationship.  Its when you need to be someone you're not to get the other party interested that things go wrong 'cos in the end you are pretty much lying to them and you can't hold that deception forever.   Its difficult, but if you're willing to accept rejection then you'll be free to act like yourself and if they don't like who you are then it was never ment to be, if they do and you like who they are then it is *shrug*

But as logical as the above sounds, logic rarely has any standing in matters of the heart.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #136 on: June 03, 2009, 02:04:50 am »
Ok here's something I'd like opinions on.

Reading through some online literature the other day and they were talking about punishment and safe-words. Basically they say that during punishment safe-words should be banned and generally ignored, not the first time I've come across this line of thought.

However my gut reaction on reading that was "ah ha ha.. no way, are you crazy" and I know a few others who feel the same way about it.

I understand the idea.. it's punishment you shouldn't be able to get out of it..  but that feels like a lot of distrust to me which is bad.

So I'm curious as to where you guys stand on the issue?

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« Reply #137 on: June 03, 2009, 02:18:19 am »
Well safety words are definitely a good idea in any kind of punishment situation. It kinda seems like the only time they shouldn't be used is if the person you're with already knows your boundaries or if you already know your partners boundaries.

I dunno if it was me I'd be using them all the time. That's probably my trust issues talking though.
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« Reply #138 on: June 03, 2009, 02:23:10 am »
That just sounds like trouble. I think safe words should always be in play, even with people that know eachother well.

You can't let people cheat their way through punishment, but it still sounds pretty crazy to me too.

Hm. Now you've got me thinking.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #139 on: June 03, 2009, 02:58:46 am »
Besides the safety issue there also a trust issue for me if you "block" the safeword in that situation. If you can't trust them not to cheat then there's a question as to the correctness of the nature of the relationship.

Maybe I've been "lucky", but I've never banned safewords during punishment before and I've never had a sub/slave use them during punishment either.

Hrm does bring up another question though.. what form of punishment do you use/how do you punish you sub (or for everyone here who isnt akasha, which forms would be most effective against you)?

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #140 on: June 03, 2009, 06:35:10 pm »
So your suggesting that Safety words should be allowed, but when used, another punishment should be applied (thus discouraging their use)?

Labour seems like a good punishment for aborting a "dangerous" or "painful" punishment.  No-one likes scrubbing the kitchen or bathroom clean for an hour so the threat of that would be pretty good incentive to only pull out when there is a real danger or scare.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #141 on: June 04, 2009, 12:41:56 am »
Never really had "punishment" but have always used safe words no matter how long I have been with some one and they knew what my limits/ boundries where.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #142 on: June 04, 2009, 02:16:14 am »
So your suggesting that Safety words should be allowed, but when used, another punishment should be applied (thus discouraging their use)?

Hell no. That would be the worst thing you could do. You should always allow Safewords and never ever (ever ever ever) punish for their use. But if they are used during punishment then clearly there is an issue somewhere which you should discuss at the earliest available sensible opportunity and get resolved.

It's always best to discuss punishment in your negotiations (if there's going to be any long term "training" involved) so you both understand what to expect and what is going to be effective, etc.

My point above was that if you just tell them "no safewords during punishment" that says on some level (to me at least) "I dont trust you". It is after all important that both Dom and sub trust each other for such a relationship to work effectivly.

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #143 on: July 02, 2009, 02:34:16 am »
Ok I know I promised some one a raid on the meat lockers at my dad's old work place but got a better offer hence the post in here......will be  seeing some one over the weekend.
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #144 on: July 09, 2009, 10:36:01 am »
Ok this surreal feeling i'm having jsut now is a really bad sub drop, and its not good have not had one like this for a long time  :(
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #145 on: July 09, 2009, 10:39:04 am »
Sorry to hear that Odd

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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #146 on: July 10, 2009, 03:41:27 pm »
What's a sub drop?
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #147 on: July 10, 2009, 03:46:02 pm »
I think it means that he lost a sub, I have no idea though.
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« Reply #148 on: July 10, 2009, 03:46:44 pm »
I thought he was a sub???
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Re: BDSM play
« Reply #149 on: July 10, 2009, 03:51:24 pm »
oh... hmm yea... I have no idea then.
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