Maytag's Playhouse => Free Talk => Topic started by: UmberIsSexy on April 16, 2009, 12:38:01 pm
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This seems to be a popular topic here, and we have a few resident experts. :-*
All are welcomed to ask questions and learn everything you secretly wanted to know but were afraid to ask,
or just discuss :) :)
Be gentle! (or don't! Whatever!)
btw this thread is For Fun and Informativity, pls! => ie. No being mean without first arranging a safe word.
BDSM linkies: :)
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html (http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html)
http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/sub_collars.php3 (http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/sub_collars.php3)
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Right, my fun.
(http://akashayi.net/random/icon_whip.gif)
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Uh oh..
Anyway, as this thread has been started (and ignoring the fun part)... figure I may as well ask the similar minded others here,
After just over a years "break" from this kind of thing, due to various circumstances, my girlfriend and I have finally been able to get to a point where we can begin to get serious about this is a part of our relationship. As a year has gone past we've decided it would be best if we restarted things on the BDSM side and go at it from the beginning. Only snag is I cant find my big box-o-training-resources and "starter" material. (and I have a new PC with none of the old bookmarks either on it). So if anyone knows a good place to look for information, resources, etc on starting a BDSM based relationship, or any useful info on submissive or slave training (or has any advice to offer..) I've got my pencil ready to write it down... (and put it somewhere I wont loose it.. I hope).
Just feeling a bit rusty around the edges and want to "brush up" before things get going...
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I'm not worthy! Thank you Mistress Akashayi!
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Right, my fun.
(http://akashayi.net/random/icon_whip.gif)
I think that means she just took control of the thread and it's about to get real. :o
and NightWraith, serious questions are totally fine. By fun I just meant that people should be nice and not mean or abusive or anything. Not that I can answer the questions, but hey, it's a good place for them. Someone will probably know the stuff you seek.
Sounds exciting by the way...
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That's right.
Nightwraith, I flipped through some really good books on that went more into the relationship/mindset aspects last time I was at the Pleasure Chest. I can't remember the titles, I'll take note next time I'm there. :)
As far as a beginning book on Bondage/Scenes go, the Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook and Japanese Bondage by Midori are excellent resources.
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So tell me, darling little Flipsiders, what do you think about knife play?
Not necessarily cutting, but when used for fun as an extra little ... incentive in a scene? :D
(http://akashayi.net/random/dottoe/2361_92_1.png)
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Incentive? I'm confused are you talking about like ... scenarios?
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right now on a break from BDSM got a lot of other things on. So that and my scuba diving has to take a back seat. Ok do like knifes...but only as tools not for use in BDSM (strange thing is im not squimish cutting out a sliver out of my finger/hand)
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Akasha, thanks. The Bondage/Scene stuff I still have to hand more or less (or rather I know exactly where my books on that are). Although I'll have to get my hands on the Japanese Bondage book at some point as my girlfriend has suddenly become very keep on being photographed in that kind of ropework (arty photographs).
It's more the training/relationship aspect I'm interested in getting information on at the moment. The only source of the kind of info I've been looking for (but not all of it) is bestslavetraning.com but 1 resource is never enough...
As to knives.. not my cup of tea at all, and isnt something I've ever had a partner (sub or dom) interested in either. I'm sure for some the "threat" of a knife pushed to their skin is thrilling, but not for me.
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That's right.
Nightwraith, I flipped through some really good books on that went more into the relationship/mindset aspects last time I was at the Pleasure Chest. I can't remember the titles, I'll take note next time I'm there. :)
As far as a beginning book on Bondage/Scenes go, the Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook and Japanese Bondage by Midori are excellent resources.
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So tell me, darling little Flipsiders, what do you think about knife play?
Not necessarily cutting, but when used for fun as an extra little ... incentive in a scene? :D
(http://akashayi.net/random/dottoe/2361_92_1.png)
Oh Mistress. May beg that your beautiful, delicate blades remove these shabby excuse for clothes that I dare to show myself in, before your glorious presence
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I think we need a couple links maybe in the first post, because some of us *raises hand* really have no idea what the whole thing is about. I'm hoping for something cooler than Wikipedia. Any suggestions?
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I think we need a couple links maybe in the first post, because some of us *raises hand* really have no idea what the whole thing is about. I'm hoping for something cooler than Wikipedia. Any suggestions?
Try this one:
http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdsm.html
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Ulike most other who has answered, I find edge-play really exciting, (not just knifes but any clean, as in cleaned with rubbing alcohol, sharp object could be used)
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Here's one I've found usuefull:
http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/sub_collars.php3
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I'm completely against BDSM. It's a mockery!
Used to be you could torture the hell out of people and scare with these bloody racks, 'n' shit.
Nowadays, with all the sick masochist freaks out there, you find people that actually get off on it! What's a wrench-monkey to do?
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well you could always go the opposite way and.......bring out the comfy Cushions
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Oddball you evil fecking bastard!!!
What's a "scene"?
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That's right.
Nightwraith, I flipped through some really good books on that went more into the relationship/mindset aspects last time I was at the Pleasure Chest. I can't remember the titles, I'll take note next time I'm there. :)
As far as a beginning book on Bondage/Scenes go, the Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook and Japanese Bondage by Midori are excellent resources.
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So tell me, darling little Flipsiders, what do you think about knife play?
Not necessarily cutting, but when used for fun as an extra little ... incentive in a scene? :D
(http://akashayi.net/random/dottoe/2361_92_1.png)
It was reaaaaaaly hot when they did it in Kushiel's Dart. :-[ :-* :-[
But I think cutting might be > my ability to be courageous. :o
Otherwise, props are fine. They make this whole thing extra special right?
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Charles, alright. Since you asked so nicely.
That's a really great resource, Nightwraith. I think it has a really good explanation of a lot of things for people who are completely unfamiliar with/new to the scene. In fact, I've already been able to share it with someone.
Did you see the Dungeon Rules page linked from there? http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdrules.html (http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdrules.html)
When thou dost come unto me and beseech me, saying, "Verily, do I request of you a good paddling," then surely I will grant unto thee a good paddling. During the period of the paddling, thou shalt not say unto me "What was that, a mosquito?", nor compare thy paddling to the flight of any other insect, or any creeping thing upon the earth, be it a moth, or a caterpillar; nor draw any likeness between the instrument of thy paddling and the feathers of the birds above; for surely shalt thy paddling grow mighty and endless, and welts shall be upon thy backside for four and thirty days. (etc)
I'm still cracking up over here. Brilliant. Need to print that out on nice paper with a nice font and frame it. Buahaha.
Regarding knives, I've always liked sharp shiny things outside of play. I have a fitting arsenal to take on any zombie outbreaks that might occur here in Los Angeles. Adding them into play seemed a natural evolution of that. It's a good thing a lot of my friends also like sharp, shiny things. :)
Next question, my lovely forumites:
How do you feel about asphyxiation and/or choking?
(http://www.akashayi.net/random/chokingcrop.jpg)
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k....rkk
*GASP* well I think it could be awesome. I mean, if you're getting "done" at the same time...I would imagine that would be pretty intense. Is it good for you though? I'd imagine prob. not that bad, usually things that are bad for you in large quantities are good for you in small quantities...or something like that.
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Hmmm... You would have to trust someone absolutely. :(
Like more then other bondage senerios. Like, you could die or pass out or have brain damage pretty easy.
They might not even mean to hurt you, but they may do it on accedent. I'd rather just give a rimjob or something. :-\
I hold my breath when I'm coming a lot though, so UIS is right, it would be intense.
Edit: You guys when straight into the hard stuff, I was hoping to cuddle first! :o
But seriously, maybe I'm not hardcore enough for this tread.
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Asphyxiation can actually cause orgasm in men. When they used to hang people the undertakers would find that some men had ejaculated when being hung. I no longer remember the scientific explanation for this.
And what you didn't expect them to go straight into the more Hardcore stuff? :P
I dunno I could probably get into the scene if I can ever go that far. Don't know if I would end up sub or Dom... Probably switch hit.
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I hold my breath when I'm coming a lot though,
Really? Does your partner ever notice and joke about it or anything?
Edit: You guys when straight into the hard stuff, I was hoping to cuddle first! :o
But seriously, maybe I'm not hardcore enough for this tread.
If it makes you feel better, I'm definitely not hardcore enough for this thread. I do like to learn about stuff though. And anyway Mistress only asked us our feelings about it. She didn't say we had to get choked right away or anything. ;)
I hear what you're saying though - I would not be into this. I just tried choking myself gently and it was pretty uncomfortable - it hurts. Maybe there's a certain technique. I'm generally not into anything though that's going to leave me sore afterwards, and I just have no need to be choked or stuff like that. :P Even anal stuff is like a level of intensity that I don't really need or want to go to usually. edit: to me, it's very nice to keep it simple, in terms of sensations, you know? but I can see perhaps bringing in a little make believe, some mental games in my extremely monogamous future :| :] I think we'll get a little more freaky when the kids get a little older and don't need us quite as much (I still have a little baby...it's all we can do sometimes to keep up with the housework and get enough sleep)
Pozf you could get into the scene you think? I'm..a little surprised. Not that I know you that well or anything.
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Well, honestly the way I go about choking someone for real in martial arts/whatever and in bed are completely different. There are different ways to go about this. Slight asphyxiation and choking also yield different results in play. The first leads to a sort of erotic high, while the second causes more of a flight or fight response and leads to the pumping of adrenaline.
I think the best fun is asphyxiation in a sexual situation, it can greatly enhance orgasms. If you're into that sort of thing. I've been on the receiving end of this as well. I can definitely say that gently cutting of part of the oxygen supply in bed can lead to a certain erotic high.
Also, just because you're not into the 'hardcore' sides of bdsm, doesn't mean a little bit of kink might not be right for you. It's not like everyone in the scene is into all the same stuff. It's just like anything else- Anal, for instance, isn't for everyone- even though it's great fun for others.
Honestly, if you don't trust someone that completely, you shouldn't even have them dom you in lighter ways. What I appreciate the most about bdsm experiences (other than being an evil, evil sadist) is the level of trust and connection involved. I think that might be the key for you Pozf, is just finding someone you can trust 100%, bdsm or no. Whenever that happens. There's no real rush!
Ok cuties, then here's a softer question.
Have any of you played with bondage in sex, or thought about it? Anything from fluffy handcuffs and belts to delicious hemp rope hog ties and full suspension, we're talking immobilization. Does this excite you?
I highly suggest you all pick up some bondage tape and do some research with a few 'quickies' and report back with your mathematical analysis. XD
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I think that might be the key for you Pozf, is just finding someone you can trust 100%, bdsm or no. Whenever that happens. There's no real rush!
That's just my problem, there is very little trust left here.
Have any of you played with bondage in sex, or thought about it? Anything from fluffy handcuffs and belts to delicious hemp rope hog ties and full suspension, we're talking immobilization. Does this excite you?
I would NOT enjoy not being able to move, that I know for a fact. [Speculation] Immobilization to certain area's... I dunno, quite possibly, but I'd not know until I try [/speculation]
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fluffy hand-cuffs, tied to a chair... ummmm... tied to the bed, spanking, biting... drunken (i.e. purposely got drunk off our faces to have a go at it. Many of you might have tried this involuntarily but it can be a lot of fun and giggles as long as you don't drink to illness).
That is it my Mistress. May this unworthy toad humbly request what thou hath done?
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My ex and I were both a bit switch, so we sometimes wrestled in bed while tying to tie eachother up, usually with strips of cloth or thick leather, we also experimented a little bit with asphyxiation, a nine tails (she'd made it). With my current GF we havn't really experimented at all in that direction, we are still no done exploring eachother in the conventional sense yet. But our 'storytelling' over the phone and letters is much further gone. :-*
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There's a bar in Chicago called "The Exit" with "Bondage night" on Thursdays.
Curiosity prompted me to view the proceedings thereof. Tho I did not partake.
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Asphyxiation is one of those scarey things as far as I'm concerned, not something I'd do or want doe to be tbh.
Umber, it needs context. Just strangling yourself and expecting to "get excited" by it is not going to work. It's just part of a whole set of stimulus.
Bondage on the other hand, yup been there done that both ways. I usually restrict my gf in some way for/during sex, either bondage, or just holding her wrists together over her head. Suspension isnt something we've done, partly due to her weight and partly due to the fact that there's nothing to make secure anchor points on in my flat, is something on the todo list though.
Dont have handcuffs as such. But we do have a set of single wrist and ankle cuffs (the kind that need to be clipped together to work as a restrictive device), best things ever for "quick" bondage. Although taking time with rope can be more fun.
What I appreciate the most about bdsm experiences (other than being an evil, evil sadist) is the level of trust and connection involved.
Same here. It's so much deeper and well, more rewarding, than anything you can get through being vanilla.
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When I did have a Mistress I trusted her completly and felt safe that She would not cross any boundaries that we had talked about earlier. would go on and explain things further but Im starting to shut down and fall asleep over the key board :(
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Choking is dangerous. I don't care what Doms say, it is seriously something I would NEVER allow anyone to do on me, or recommend to anyone. I'm sorry Akasha, but it's true, and most serious BDSM-sites say the same.
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Sky diving is dangerous. As is Bungee jumping and a whole range of activities that thrill seekers enjoy.
I've never done choking and I'd never argue that it's safe but I will say that the danger and the trust put into someone to perfom such an act on yourself is probably a big part of the thrill.
Granted, it's not everyone's cup of tea. Some find the fear and thought of it exciting while others, such as yourself, evidently just find it scary as hell and thats perfectly alright. No use doing something unnecessary that frightens you but doesn't excite you.
EDIT: Just want to add that anyone who does such a thing without research is nothing but a fool. If you plan/want to do anything like that I'd definately tell you to do your homework and make sure you understand the dangers, consequences and best practices before proceeding. To do otherwise and proceed is idiocy
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Charles: Seriously though. I wouldn't compare adrenaline-kick-crazy-stuff to choking.
What if a mistake happens and the sub dies? Who'll be there to tell the police that it was a mistake and not murder? Parachutes can't be charged with murder. I've spoken to many doms, and like I said, most say they don't condone choking because it's too dangerous.
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I'd imagine that a sub dying would result in the same treatment by police on a dom as they would on someone who incorrectly packed the parachute of a fellow sky diver (granted, I think in most cases it's considered correct procedure for each man to pack his own and is even law in a few places).
Choking probably exists in much the same arena as base jumping. A good deal of the sky-diving community themselves don't condone it and it's certainly more dangerous but never-the-less it's practiced.
*meh* What doth Mistress Akashayi say?
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Choking and knife/needle play does not apeal to me, was more into the sensory depravation side.
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I'm not that attracted to either of them myself. The choking I can understand there is probably a thrill with the risk taken and a certain level of euphoria by the lack of oxygen, but there's not real pain. Unlike knife and needle play that involve actual cutting, obviously causing pain and injury possibly with permanent scarring. Most people prone to this probably have tattos and piercings, thus giving them an idea of the pain and maybe an appreciation for it.
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Well, honestly the way I go about choking someone for real in martial arts/whatever and in bed are completely different. There are different ways to go about this. Slight asphyxiation and choking also yield different results in play. The first leads to a sort of erotic high, while the second causes more of a flight or fight response and leads to the pumping of adrenaline.
I think the best fun is asphyxiation in a sexual situation, it can greatly enhance orgasms. If you're into that sort of thing. I've been on the receiving end of this as well. I can definitely say that gently cutting of part of the oxygen supply in bed can lead to a certain erotic high.
Also, just because you're not into the 'hardcore' sides of bdsm, doesn't mean a little bit of kink might not be right for you. It's not like everyone in the scene is into all the same stuff. It's just like anything else- Anal, for instance, isn't for everyone- even though it's great fun for others.
Honestly, if you don't trust someone that completely, you shouldn't even have them dom you in lighter ways. What I appreciate the most about bdsm experiences (other than being an evil, evil sadist) is the level of trust and connection involved. I think that might be the key for you Pozf, is just finding someone you can trust 100%, bdsm or no. Whenever that happens. There's no real rush!
Ok cuties, then here's a softer question.
Have any of you played with bondage in sex, or thought about it? Anything from fluffy handcuffs and belts to delicious hemp rope hog ties and full suspension, we're talking immobilization. Does this excite you?
I highly suggest you all pick up some bondage tape and do some research with a few 'quickies' and report back with your mathematical analysis. XD
Bondage is the sexy part about The whole BDSM thing for me. Like sometimes I see a random coffee table book with girls tied up in ropes and stuff and I have to rub one out Immediately! POST HASTE I TELL YOU! (Incedently, I usually identify more with the girl in any porno scenerio, I don't know why, i.e. when two girls do lesbian stuff together I imagine that my pussy is being licked ect).
The idea of being helpless just makes me so hot. Gary has said a couple times that he would tie me up, but we never do...
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I swear to God I have Never said that. This guy is lying!! (he does rub 'em out constantly though, usually on people's coffee tables-that part is true..)
(yes, it seems in fact that I share a first name with Ronin's boyfriend :-[...wow. Well, I was planning on posting it pretty soon anyway in the intro thread.. :))
edit: why the hell not though Ronin? (though I'm one to talk, I haven't done it either and I don't know why...though my wife would be the one to be bonded, I'm pretty darn sure she'd like it...oh well, we got a lotta long years ahead of us ::))
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Oh, your name is gary too. Well I didn't mean you UIS. Sorry to disappiont you ;).
Mostly becuase my boyfriend dosen't much like sex at all anymore. :(
He's twice my age, so that's probably a factor. :(
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don't know if I'll get over that man ;_; :D
Wow that's really sad. I'm sorry to hear that. I mean, here's a perfectly good horn-dog hanging around idle, forced to watch copious amounts of porn and jizz on every coffee table he comes within sight of!
Well..guess that's why you're playing the field right?
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Well "at all" is an exassageration.
We still do it occasionally, but not enough. We were never incredibly sexually compatible. But it's okay becuase we have a great relationship outside the bedroom, and we don't believe in the draconian defention of fidelity that most people do.
Life is a confusing and diffcult place, and I'm thankful for Gary regardless of his sexual voraciousness (or lack thereof).
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Well "at all" is an exassageration.
We still do it occasionally, but not enough. We were never incredibly sexually compatible. But it's okay becuase we have a great relationship outside the bedroom, and we don't believe in the draconian defention of fidelity that most people do.
Life is a confusing and diffcult place, and I'm thankful for Gary regardless of his sexual voraciousness (or lack thereof).
Wow ok that's pretty awesome. Gone from sad to pretty awesome. Sorry I made light of you guys' relationship.
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No problem.
We also contantly bicker like an old married couple. :P
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You know no one laughed at my coffee table jizzing jokes here...I thought they were funny :(
not really a joke, more of a visual image...hm. Gotta try harder I guess.
I just thought, you know, it'd be funny...guy (Ronin) walks into someone's nice clean well-arranged living room, sees bondage "coffee table" book on nice glass table near sofa, is like "Wow hey! Sweeeeeee-eee-eeee--EEET!!" and lays one down right all over the coffee table, some shooting over and ending up on the nice clean carpet. The host (30-something upscale woman) is just like :o and Ronin's like "What?! I had to! POST-HASTE I TELL YOU!!!" as he zips up happily.
no? not funny?
*sigh* sorry, it's Friday...I have no idea...
on that note I'm going home!!
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You're a wierdo UIS.
:P
Have a save drive.
:D
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and then she gets so hot that she drops down and gives you a BJ right there.
and she's got her hair tied back, so you get to hold on to this tight little bun thing on the back of her head, and it's awesome...ed: and you wink at the camera.
ok bye!!
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And y'all say I'm the perverted one! ::)
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Take deep breathes umber and breathe into this brown paper bag.
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ahem...so, anyway, do you people think that the whole BDSM thing is more mainstream/more readily accepted in Europe than in the states? It's pretty subverted over here (in the States), as far as I can tell.
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I think it is accepted over here. there are two main clubs that hold events every month and there are small meets that happen near me. have not been able to go since they are always on when im at work.
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Yeah. Oregon is really liberal and S&M is not very mainstream here. Only occasionaly do I see fliers for events. And it is usually a semi joking basis methinks? What about Canada? Are there any dirty perverts in Canada? :P
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Once i've got a few things sorted might be getting back into it again.
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Are you seriously into that? Like clubs and stuff? That's cool.
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Have not been to a club yet still a newbie in the scene
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Huh.
Okay. :-\
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And Canadians, at least in the major areas, have plenty of kink. Just look at me, I'm from Canada and I'm a huge perv. ;P
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My Mom's from Canada. Do you know her? :P
I wonder if their is a "perverse gene"? :o
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I like being tied up/tying up. I just don't really like pain. Other then mild spanking. Or whatever. :'(
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Do you get tied up often, Ronin? :3
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No specific comments as yet, but overall I feel kind of ambivalent about BDSM. Deep down its just a more creative way to have sex, after all, and one would have to lead a pretty boring life to be satisfied with plain old sex by itself every time.
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Have I killed this topic or something?
Come on, it was fun, don't leave me alone here you guys... :(
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No you didn't kill it.
It just goes in waves of off and on. Somebody will say something eventually.
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ok Q for you all who in here thinks they are either a Dom, submissive or a switch( Dom and sub depending on who they are with)?
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Yeah... I'm a sub in denial, I guess.
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Neither, I'm just sadistic with some masochist streaks but don't enjoy the dominance bits at all.
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I'm most likely a switch.
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You guys should know I'm very much a Dom and a sadist.
I've tied people up in utterly non-sexual situations, so it's not necessarily a sexual thing. But it certainly can become one. ;P
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I couldn't really call myself anything.
I suppose you could call me a sadist, as I enjoy the suffering of others, but I like it to be "for reals" and not with anyone I like.
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Yeah I think that's pretty much the definition of sadist.
I guess I'm a switch, but I only sub for Akasha ;)
...*can't imagine tying up being non-sexual, or at least how it could come up outside of kids playing cops n' robbers or whatever game*
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Do you get tied up often, Ronin? :3
No. That's the problem.
And I'm Bottomtastic! :D
YAY Bottoms! :D
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YAY Bottoms! :D
Seconded!
but are we talking about the same kind of bottoms? ::)
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Ah so you sub but still tell the Dom what to do Ronin?
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@UIS: As upposed to "Top".
It never really has happend yet.
I just fantasise occasionally. :-[
Hmmm... "Topping from the Bottom" you mean? :-\
I don't know... I hope not. I mean I don't think the if the scene was set I would, but I would want to discusses the specifics of the senario beforehand.
It is supposed to be a dick move to do that anyway.
But the whole "RAWR! DO THIS NOW SLAVE!" thing seems a little scary. I think I want to be *seduced* in to bottoming.
Yes, I'm a wierdo. :o
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@UIS: As upposed to "Top".
oh :( I thought we meant pajama bottoms.
Yes, I'm a wierdo. :o
thank goodness for that!
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I tie up those who like being tied up for the sake of tying them up and there's nothing sexual about it :P
For instance, when just hanging out with friends who are also into the scene, conversation turns that way and bam, somehow my friends are all tied up and I'm laughing maniacally.
or like recently, I was asked by a friend to do some rope work for photos he's taking.
or for a more serious bdsm scene that isn't going to involve sex.
:P
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See I'm afraid too tie somebody up. I see nothing good that could come of it with me.
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Now introducing! *drum roll*
*cymbal crash* Pozf's Evil Side!
go ahead pozf...(damn there I go asking for more information when it hasn't been offered.)
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Well my I general mental stability is generally in check. I HAVE had a lapses in my stability. The last one was all a blur but, I was in the junkyard shooting the BB gun at some cans one minute, the next minute I was smashing shit with the butt of the gun. Junk cars I think.
That being said if I have one while I'm near someone who is tied up? I somehow doubt that person will be alive. (Most likely dismembered some how) Now depending how this tied up situation occurred it might trigger a break (things that I'm not going to say). The chances are extremely minuscule that this would happen. But I'd rather NOT want to risk something like that happening.
Edit: what... to much?
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:P
Not for Akasha who has returned valiantly to save this thread and fight off what is soon to be insomnia for great justice! ./pose
It's good to be aware of these things and to know yourself, Pozf. So, maybe it might be best to get all of that dealt with or kept in check before thinking about attempting a scene. Thinking that, you're already ahead of everyone else who jumps out and tries to Dom without any forethought or understanding.
As I mentioned before, I think you need to find someone you trust completely. How ever long that may take.
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Irony, you say?
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Not continue to beat down this thread in an off topic ... Rant? Personal exploration? ... But it's really not as simple as that. Like I've said in the past, trust is a problem. Now lets say I find someone I can trust to the extent I can. I'm freaking afraid I Will harm them period. I have self control, but just this back of mind fear...
Yea I'm gonna stop now before I explode crazy goo all over the place.
Sorry guys.
Ninja edits
Irony?? I miss it.
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Hey Pozf,
Are you one of the dudes with low sex drive? Cuz I'm just gonna go ahead and say that if you could vent that insane shit (even you yourself used the words "explode" and "goo") you'd probably have the libido of...someone who has epic libido.
I don't want to psychoanalyze you, but it sounds like you've got a lid on it, and if you pop off the lid, all kinds of other shit (lots of it Very Good) would come rushing out as well.
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I don't mind the psychoanalysis, it's nice to hear other opinions.
As for the low sex drive, yea I probably do have a low sex drive, I never really think about it, albeit I do watch a fair amount of porn. It's possibly I have an epic sex drive... that... felt weird to type...
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I've never been one to trust people. Typically, people are awarded with my complete trust posthumously.
Make of that what you will. ;)
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Well hindsight is 20/20...
but looking back it's still a bit fuzzy.
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well it's my opinion that everyone does if all their channels are flowing smoothly, and I've seen a lot of people become totally different people, or rather become themselves, just by blasting out some suppressed stuff.
but yeah I thought I remembered you talking about watching porn without...well without ... well ahem anyway...y'know, and that seemed pretty foreign to me.
But anyway!!!
ninja'd: ah Keaoden...now it makes more sense. Sit right here, this is now the psychoanalysis thread.
j/k sorry..unless you want to talk about it of course. Mistress probably wouldn't mind.
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Aren't you the one with the green stars in this neck of the woods there Umber?
Although I do feel bad about the highjackery that has occurred. Maybe a psychoanalysis thread should be made?
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yeah but
(http://www.akashayi.net/shashin/knife2.jpg)
need I say more?
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... Touché
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but yeah I wouldn't feel too bad about it. Akasha is a kind and forgiving mistress, or at least she will be after she skewers our asses.
but would a psychoanalysis thread be good? I wonder how to start it...
we could speak of mutually assured destruction and stuff :D
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we could speak of mutually assured destruction and stuff :D
I'm glad Somebody picked up on that
And as to how to start the thread I mean we could just start off where we left off here... that is if people still have more to say about me. I don't mind really
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Aw, you guys are so cute. ./patpat
I'll only beat you lightly. (http://www.akashayi.net/random/icon_whip.gif)
Trust certainly is a central issue to BDSM, but if the conversation gets too far derailed from the original intent, you should split it into a new thread :P
You know Pozf, getting back on topic, there's also non-restrictive artistic bondage, too :P
I've been really digging the work of Two Knotty Boys, lately. They have videos for some pretty unique ties.
nsfw: http://twoknottyboys.com/ (http://twoknottyboys.com/)
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If you are going to beat us Akashayi go easy on my lower back ok lol
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Just thought we could use a little more of this in here:
(http://akashayi.net/random/xmasfechi.jpg)
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That is nice :)
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(http://www.worldofstock.com/slides/PRO2181.jpg)
Mistress has excellent taste
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all I can say after my weekend is "OWIE!!"
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Odd, that's because you chose the wrong end of the paddle XD
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no it was more like various other impliments used as well.
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was that OWIE said with a smile? with a feeling of satisfaction?
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you can say that Umber been awhile since I did something like that and it was the first time I had played with this couple but have met them once before. but it turned out pretty good. :) :) who has a spare ice pack?
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I've been really digging the work of Two Knotty Boys, lately. They have videos for some pretty unique ties.
nsfw: http://twoknottyboys.com/ (http://twoknottyboys.com/)
Hrmm interesting... now if only my girlfriends PhD stuff would get sorted so I have someone to try them on...
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(http://www.worldofstock.com/slides/PRO2181.jpg)
Mistress has excellent taste
That is the hottest thing ever.
I wonder if she has a little knot near her clitty so that evertime she tries to move it rubs up against it? :-[ :-*
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Ropes tied like that go right down the center on top of everything including the Clit. (I'm pretty sure at least >.> )
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you can say that Umber been awhile since I did something like that and it was the first time I had played with this couple but have met them once before. but it turned out pretty good. :) :) who has a spare ice pack?
Hey Odd was that a paid deal or just like a friendly thing? I don't know how this works, I'm guessing paid but *shrug*
agree that pic is pretty darn hot...
addition:
I wonder if she has a little knot near her clitty so that evertime she tries to move it rubs up against it? :-[ :-*
I wonder if that feels good or bad though?
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Depends on how hard she rubs I think. :-\
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Probably depends on the type of rope as well.
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The nice hemp rope I use carries vibrations so I can stick a bullet vibrator somewhere else and crotchrope will also vibrate (as well as everywhere else). :D
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Isn't hemp really rough and scratchy?
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Not treated hemp rope made specifically for bondage, though it isn't as smooth as say cotton or nylon ropes.
For ties that involve involve the genitalia and gags and stuff, I've wanted to get bamboo rope because of it's antibacterial properties and it's supposed to be soft.
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I have bamboo sheets (assuming they're gonna be the same), and they are amazingly comfortable, very silky.
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I have a bamboo sword.
It's very hard.
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yes but the woven stuff is not. It's really really soft.
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yes but the woven stuff is not. It's really really soft.
Well who cares about your soft woven stuff? Can you whack someone over the head with it and make them feel PAIN?
Maybe. If you swung it very, very hard.
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You could always rat tail them... or whatever it's called when you wet it then whip somebody with it.
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Hey Odd was that a paid deal or just like a friendly thing? I don't know how this works, I'm guessing paid but *shrug*
Sorry Umber late reply it was not a paid deal met the couple through a friend of mine.
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Oh well that's cool then! Niiice...
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And by the looks of it since my friend dumped me this couple looks like a regular thing now 8)
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Lucky you... I guess.
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well see how it works out.
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Dude it's definitely Lucky Odd. Just because you don't want your ass whipped doesn't mean others don't...if you don't want your ass whipped stay out of the kitchen!
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Wow. It's cool that it worked out for you Oddball. Dating is so sureal these days... :'(
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Gave up on dating a long time ago lol or maybe I'm too wierd for some folk out there ???
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Don't give up on dating. Just do it passively.
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I never was into dating. The idea of basing a relationship on meeting at X place at X time for X reason never really appealed to me.
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Who says dating has to be like that.
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Who says dating has to be like that.
I suppose it depends on how picky you want to be on your definition of the word.
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@CDSM: Well, I guess a better term might be relationships. Are you into them still and if so, what kind?
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@CDSM: Well, I guess a better term might be relationships. Are you into them still and if so, what kind?
The boring and undramatic kind. :P
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So what, you want to skip right to the content stage of a relationship?
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I don't do the dating thing either.
I just... meet people, and if it goes in that direction then it does. Meeting someone for the sole purpose of perhaps getting laid seems kinda pointless to me.
Perhaps it should be mentioned that I've been single for two years, and that my pervious relationship involved no sex?
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So what, you want to skip right to the content stage of a relationship?
Sure.
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rather get to know some one in a casual setting and not calling dating....ok im just strange.
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How so that's what multiple of us just said... Well I didn't but am now.
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Let me clarify a bit of what I said.
It's not that I dislike excitement or whatever, it's simply I have disdain for the whole "playing games" think where it's all like trying to decieve each other, and trying to look like you're not interested, or trying to be all catsy-and-mousey.
I don't like doing that kind of thing with people I like.
I wanted some kind of contest/challenge, I'd much rather have an enemy to do it against.
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Depends how you date I guess.
If you like someone and they like you back then its just a happy relationship. Its when you need to be someone you're not to get the other party interested that things go wrong 'cos in the end you are pretty much lying to them and you can't hold that deception forever. Its difficult, but if you're willing to accept rejection then you'll be free to act like yourself and if they don't like who you are then it was never ment to be, if they do and you like who they are then it is *shrug*
But as logical as the above sounds, logic rarely has any standing in matters of the heart.
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Ok here's something I'd like opinions on.
Reading through some online literature the other day and they were talking about punishment and safe-words. Basically they say that during punishment safe-words should be banned and generally ignored, not the first time I've come across this line of thought.
However my gut reaction on reading that was "ah ha ha.. no way, are you crazy" and I know a few others who feel the same way about it.
I understand the idea.. it's punishment you shouldn't be able to get out of it.. but that feels like a lot of distrust to me which is bad.
So I'm curious as to where you guys stand on the issue?
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Well safety words are definitely a good idea in any kind of punishment situation. It kinda seems like the only time they shouldn't be used is if the person you're with already knows your boundaries or if you already know your partners boundaries.
I dunno if it was me I'd be using them all the time. That's probably my trust issues talking though.
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That just sounds like trouble. I think safe words should always be in play, even with people that know eachother well.
You can't let people cheat their way through punishment, but it still sounds pretty crazy to me too.
Hm. Now you've got me thinking.
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Besides the safety issue there also a trust issue for me if you "block" the safeword in that situation. If you can't trust them not to cheat then there's a question as to the correctness of the nature of the relationship.
Maybe I've been "lucky", but I've never banned safewords during punishment before and I've never had a sub/slave use them during punishment either.
Hrm does bring up another question though.. what form of punishment do you use/how do you punish you sub (or for everyone here who isnt akasha, which forms would be most effective against you)?
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So your suggesting that Safety words should be allowed, but when used, another punishment should be applied (thus discouraging their use)?
Labour seems like a good punishment for aborting a "dangerous" or "painful" punishment. No-one likes scrubbing the kitchen or bathroom clean for an hour so the threat of that would be pretty good incentive to only pull out when there is a real danger or scare.
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Never really had "punishment" but have always used safe words no matter how long I have been with some one and they knew what my limits/ boundries where.
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So your suggesting that Safety words should be allowed, but when used, another punishment should be applied (thus discouraging their use)?
Hell no. That would be the worst thing you could do. You should always allow Safewords and never ever (ever ever ever) punish for their use. But if they are used during punishment then clearly there is an issue somewhere which you should discuss at the earliest available sensible opportunity and get resolved.
It's always best to discuss punishment in your negotiations (if there's going to be any long term "training" involved) so you both understand what to expect and what is going to be effective, etc.
My point above was that if you just tell them "no safewords during punishment" that says on some level (to me at least) "I dont trust you". It is after all important that both Dom and sub trust each other for such a relationship to work effectivly.
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Ok I know I promised some one a raid on the meat lockers at my dad's old work place but got a better offer hence the post in here......will be seeing some one over the weekend.
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Ok this surreal feeling i'm having jsut now is a really bad sub drop, and its not good have not had one like this for a long time :(
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Sorry to hear that Odd
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What's a sub drop?
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I think it means that he lost a sub, I have no idea though.
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I thought he was a sub? ???
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oh... hmm yea... I have no idea then.
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Maybe someone dropped him? That'd be sad. :(
By the way, do often agree with/placate people when you've no idea what they're talking about? :-\
Also I thought the whole point of S&M was erotic jollies, what's the deal with putting the whole the punishment thing in there? ???
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By the way, do often agree with/placate people when you've no idea what they're talking about? :-\
Was that question directed at me?
No I just give my best shot at an answer.
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Wasn't an insult, just an observation.
I get it. Kinda.
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Don't worry I didn't think it was, it does seem like I do that a lot doesn't it ...
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Should be careful about it becuase if you aren't people may think you are arrogant know-it-all.
That's why I try to admit stupidity from time to time, to try to stay humble.
Also, nonsequiters are fun and cute. :-*
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Should be careful about it becuase if you aren't people may think you are arrogant know-it-all.
That's why I generally will say that I'm not sure or don't know, I like my educated guesses... But I totally am a arrogant know-it-all.
Sorry to keep thread jacking
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Should be careful about it becuase if you aren't people may think you are arrogant know-it-all.
That's why I generally will say that I'm not sure or don't know, I like my educated guesses... But I totally am a arrogant know-it-all.
Sorry to keep thread jacking
Yeah. You're pretty good at that.
These threads should pay you good money.
Stop giving it away for free Pozf.
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Maybe someone dropped him? That'd be sad. :(
As long as it wasnt from the top of a building...
Also I thought the whole point of S&M was erotic jollies, what's the deal with putting the whole the punishment thing in there? ???
Different things for different people...
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A sub drop is the after effects when you feel really low after having a session. and it been a long time since I was Dommed
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why? :(
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Let me elaborate my last post.
I'm sorry you're feeling low. :(
Why would someone get depressed after a session? Is it becuase they're mean to you? Is it becuase it's so exillerating and hot that normal life is dull by comparison? Is it becuase you like the people and miss them?
Why haven't you been topped, Odd? Are you scared? Are you upset? Just haven't been able to fit it into your schedual?
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Why would someone get depressed after a session? Is it becuase they're mean to you? Is it becuase it's so exillerating and hot that normal life is dull by comparison? Is it becuase you like the people and miss them?
questions seconded...
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Definition: SubDrop is the emotional drop that submissives feel at some point shortly after their last scene with their dominant.
Time Frame: A few hours to a few days... Experience of talking to different subs leads me to believe an average of three days.
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Ok who renamed this thread and made me scan through a couple of pages before thinking.. "hang on a mo I've read all this before". What's worse is the third post in the thread is mine and it didnt twig!
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Why would someone get depressed after a session? Is it becuase they're mean to you? Is it becuase it's so exillerating and hot that normal life is dull by comparison? Is it becuase you like the people and miss them?
questions seconded...
It's not any of those things, says my research.
Like any other depression, it is caused by the chemicals in your body. Perhaps the session was a little too intense and caused an overpowering rush of hormones, perhaps the Dom neglected the aftercare a little...
Have you heard of people what have started crying and felt terrible during a massage? Same thing here. You push the body a little extra, get a rush of hormones and bad things go to the surface.
One way to help a subdrop is for the Dom to make sure the aftercare is -good- and -long- and that the sub feels loved, comforted and safe after a session. One might want to take a break from sessions as well, to let the sub recover.
I'm not supposed to know thi stuff. D': What's wrong with me?
EDIT: There is also a thing opposite of Subdrop called "subspace."
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Well, maybe you have latent urges Razzly, the kind of urges some of us are already acting on for ourselves ;) :P
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I've read that this "sub drop" of which you speak is caused by doms who don't end the sessions well in terms of keeping the sub comfortable, so the sub can feel unsafe, ill-respected, etc.
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Ok who renamed this thread and made me scan through a couple of pages before thinking.. "hang on a mo I've read all this before". What's worse is the third post in the thread is mine and it didnt twig!
yeah that was me guy sorry. This name is more fun I think. Something I always meant to do but for some reason never did.
haha though!
and...yeah I'm gonna have to say Razzly was way more informative than Oddball. Thanks Razz. And what's wrong with knowing that stuff!? You're European! (j/k)
...does seem like BDSM is way more popular/common in Europe though...
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So here's a random question of the sort this thread encourages:
How old can you be and still have an imaginary friend?
What if she's really hot?
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Anybody, any age, anytime. As long as you don't allow it interfere with your life nobody can do anything.
... But what do imaginary friends have to do with BDSM?
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Everything if it's something they like to do a lot.
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... Huh?
BDSM is a compound acronym Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism. As I'm sure you all know, I still don't understand how imaginary people fall under any one of those even through the most strenuous of interpretations.
I'm not trying to be a jackass here, it does read that way I know, but I'm just trying to comprehend this.
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I assume Imaginary friend = imaginary BDSM partner I would guess. Which is fine if you've had plenty of experience with real people, but possibly not if you havent as you MAY assign them what would be atypical responses and as a result when you get a real parter put it into practice in an unsafe or unsatisfying way.... As long as when you get a real experience you know that you still know nothing it'll be ok.
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Well been awhile since any one has posted here. Have not been practising lately due to personal troubles meaning I lost touch with my Mistress (think She has given up on me) so have signed up to go to a munch with a local group.
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I've been thinking about heading up to York Munch, I don't see those guys often - hopefully I can catch them again before I leave the UK, I miss them.
Edit - Also, FUCK the leeds munch. Seriously, it's cliquey, elitist, and aggravating, everyone just bundles into tiny little groups and ignores everyone else, rather than mingling and having fun with everyone. Had-a-fucking-nuff
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Heh, well. I can't ever say my life is boring. Been plenty active, but somewhat recently stopped playing regularly with my favorite sub. :(
And I'm always experimenting with artsy bondage...
Been invited to some fetish groups/clubs/nights around here but have been too busy anyway. And Churba... As far as cliquey and elitist goes, that's extremely hard to avoid in the scene.
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been meaning to go to this munch for a while since its bascily on my door step and have joined the group on line but with other commitments have not been able to go. And now that I have things stable again feel like getting back into the scene once more. Does not help my First (and so far only Mistress) still has a few of my things if i get taken on by a new Mistress.
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been meaning to go to this munch for a while since its bascily on my door step and have joined the group on line but with other commitments have not been able to go. And now that I have things stable again feel like getting back into the scene once more. Does not help my First (and so far only Mistress) still has a few of my things if i get taken on by a new Mistress.
I feel you there. Repeat purchases are the story of my life.
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Well the two floggers I had have seen plenty of use, one was falling apart and She borrowed the spare. While spending a day in London with my sister after i got back from Russia found the adult toy shop nearby and made a "few" purchases.
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And Churba... As far as cliquey and elitist goes, that's extremely hard to avoid in the scene.
You're preaching to the choir.
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I had some stuff to say about sex and bdsm and my opinons thereof, but when i got down here all that was in my head was the thought, "I need crackers".
So I'm going to go get crackers.
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I had some stuff to say about sex and bdsm and my opinons thereof, but when i got down here all that was in my head was the thought, "I need crackers".
So I'm going to go get crackers.
Great, now I'm hungry too...
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If you are going to the kitchen Night get me a coffee while you are there.
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Now I too have a desire for crackers...
Incidentally, that reminds me of way back in like 10th grade when a friend and I snuck out of class to watch Princess Mononoke in the library, and right after the part where the giant demon pig says "YOU WILL SUFFER" and rots away before your eyes I noticed that I had a package of crackers in front of me.
"Snack time! OM nom nom nom." :P
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that was quite the speech to say crackers reminded you of crackers...but ive been hungry for the past few hours now so i think i should go eat aha
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Better get back on topic or Mistress Akashayi will bring out the ropes and whips :'(
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Probably more than that since I've been drinking absinthe.
Rope, sharp things, scratches, hot wax?
(http://dl.dropbox.com/u/2126801/self/ropescratcheswax.jpg)
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Those on you or your 'victim' 'kasha? :P
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sharp things put me off a little :-\
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
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Ah in that case all is good ;D
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
In my opinion, they're actually quite good - though I'm not a fan when some people use too much pressure, and the thing actually visibly penetrates the skin a significant amount - if you do that, you're doing it wrong.
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
In my opinion, they're actually quite good - though I'm not a fan when some people use too much pressure, and the thing actually visibly penetrates the skin a significant amount - if you do that, you're doing it wrong.
exactly, blood isn't necessary for a good time ;D
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
In my opinion, they're actually quite good - though I'm not a fan when some people use too much pressure, and the thing actually visibly penetrates the skin a significant amount - if you do that, you're doing it wrong.
exactly, blood isn't necessary for a good time ;D
Oh no, drawing blood is fine, but if you push one of those in too far and then try to roll it, you're looking at a nasty injury.
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
In my opinion, they're actually quite good - though I'm not a fan when some people use too much pressure, and the thing actually visibly penetrates the skin a significant amount - if you do that, you're doing it wrong.
exactly, blood isn't necessary for a good time ;D
Oh no, drawing blood is fine, but if you push one of those in too far and then try to roll it, you're looking at a nasty injury.
ah i think i misunderstood what you were saying before, but yeah, i understand what you mean
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A victim of mine, naturally.
Not knifeplay, but those pokeypokey wheels, Odd. They aren't bad ;P
In my opinion, they're actually quite good - though I'm not a fan when some people use too much pressure, and the thing actually visibly penetrates the skin a significant amount - if you do that, you're doing it wrong.
exactly, blood isn't necessary for a good time ;D
Oh no, drawing blood is fine, but if you push one of those in too far and then try to roll it, you're looking at a nasty injury.
ah i think i misunderstood what you were saying before, but yeah, i understand what you mean
Ah, it's all good. It's hard to conceptualise till you've seen an over-enthusiastic and under-experienced Dom actually do so.
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Huh. Must be pretty enthusiastic, or cheaply made? The way the spokes are balanced, you can press pretty damn hard and not leave a mark at all.
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so im assuming you have a good set of spokes yourself? :P
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oh yes, and so much more.
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Huh. Must be pretty enthusiastic, or cheaply made? The way the spokes are balanced, you can press pretty damn hard and not leave a mark at all.
Bit of both - Cheaply made, and very enthusiastic - It was like a spokewheel, except the spokes where essentially as sharp as sewing needles, and only a tad thicker.
Nasty as fuck, would have been a hell of a trouble if there wasn't anyone who knew what they were doing with first ad there, poor thing was bleeding like a stuck pig.
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hot wax?
Yes please mistress ;D
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You should tie me up like that, Akasha.
I love marks.
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You should tie me up like that, Akasha.
I love marks.
:o Oh my gods! mental meltdown due to hotness input overload imminent... :-*
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You should tie me up like that, Akasha.
I love marks.
Happily :)
I love coming up with new artistic combinations. Should have posted some older pictures too... love the marks that column ties make, rows of pretty lines.
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hmmmmm sounds intresting and might have a new Mistress ;D (my First is not talking to me any more :( )
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Woop Odd...
And I'm not going near the Razzly thing... as I'll just explode.
And now there's the whole matter of me being in the US on my own, with no-one to tie up or torture all week.
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Well meeting a new Mistress tomorrow afternoon and the voice in my head that wants to kill me is trying to talk me out of it lol.
(She made me do that tower jump)
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Excellent! I hope it goes well, Odd.
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Sigh, been in the US 4 days now and already she's misbehaved twice without me there... said we'd deal with it when I got back, but now wondering if it was the right idea to delay it like that.
4 days to think of a punishment that wont inconvenience me on my return (going to be so asleep she'll be running around after me all day as i try and stay up til a sutible time) or add bruises to the ones I gave her before I left that wont have had time to fade completely. Can't think of a thing!! Grumble.
Anyway enough moaning..
Hope you have/had a good time Odd and things go/went well.
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Hm, tricky. Something involving immobilization/sensory deprivation? (and where in the states are you, night?)
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Only problem with those is they're going to have to last for some time (one rule breach is a serious one) and I've got a lot of stuff for her to do when I get home (pick me up, unpack, start laundry, fetch me lots of tea to keep me awake all day - stupid 8 hour overnight flights I can never sleep on - etc), not to mention I actually want to spend some time with her anyway.
And I'm in Greenfield, Indiana.
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Well I survived ;D It was only a gentle get to know you session no heavy stuff, but still got a slight sub-space buzz.
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Just as a general question.
Silk rope and leather.
Just how hard are these to find most places or is that something reserved for online purchases?
You should tie me up like that, Akasha.
I love marks.
How about scars?
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You should tie me up like that, Akasha.
I love marks.
How about scars?
Mmh, no, I don't generally like scars. Or well, it depends on where they are.
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not big on scarification, but I did see a really beautiful job done.... made to look like cherry blossoms. so there are exceptions to everything.
in regards to gear.....
rope of any kind is easy to find but I very highly suggest Twisted monk and madam butterfly for hemp or hand made silk ropes (or the silk bamboo mix, it's quite good and maintains antibacterial properties). But I love hemp rope too much and I love twisted monk's rope! both here:
http://twistedmonk.com/products.htm
http://twistedmonk.com/exotic.htm
for leather... it's usually better to buy in person. Hand check the quality. I have friends in different scenes down here that work in leather. And living in LA/consistent visits to sf make it really easy for me to obtain good leather at shops. So happy to have the pleasure chest down here. Where are you, Keaoden?
One thing I noticed was a lot of leather in the exhibition hall at anime expo. These people apparently go con to con selling stuff. While I saw plenty of crap, some of it was pretty good, all overpriced but at least you can check it in person.
otherwise, I can probably suggest subshop. http://www.sub-shop.com/
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never used ropes or leather, did get tied down with industrial type luggage strops and rachets once lol
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Nice, odd! I always love the creative solutions, they appeal to the hacker mindset ;P
Restraint is a beautiful thing. (Says the dom who specializes in tying people up)
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Thats the thing always wanted to try it but always avoided topping from the bottom by asking, just let who ever was Dom/meing me go with how they felt as long as it was with in my limits.
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There's a difference between asking for it to be done to you and expressing the desire to try it. The first can be construed as topping from the bottom, the second one really isnt (depending on when you choose to do it of course).
I think that knowing what they would like to experience/try matters and is a useful thing to know. Doesnt mean you're going to do it for a variety or reasons, but something you should know and something you can always reward them with.
Got my punishment issue sorted.. lets just say she's going to be very frustrated for a few weeks.
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Here's something I breifly covered with my First: how many of you Dominants out there had a submissive and put them in chastity/orgasim denial and how long did it last before allowing orgasims again?
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heheh, nice, Nightwraith.
I've done that, but I think the max was two weeks. ;P
As far as suggestions from the dom/sub go, I agree with Night, depending on you do it there's nothing wrong with expressing desire. I know pro doms that use checklists before hand, and there's usually some sort of communication / agreement to begin with where you can express that sort of thing as well.
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after a few months break the submissive feelings are starting to come back again. seeing this new Domme again on Tuesday and by the sounds of it She aint going to go easy on me this time lol
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Here's something I breifly covered with my First: how many of you Dominants out there had a submissive and put them in chastity/orgasim denial and how long did it last before allowing orgasims again?
The total time this time will be 3 weeks (the one week I was away + the 2 I gave as punishment), most I've done before has been a week (well 9 days).
If you want to be truly evil you make them have an orgasm every day for a few weeks before "shutting it off". (I know, some evil Dom did that to me once)
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I should really get involved in this.
I've recently stopped playing magic cards, so I need a new hobby?
Is Bondage expensive, typically?
I'm pretty poor.
Also, there has been some concern that a lot of BDSM scenes are really cliquish. I am pretty sensitive when it comes to being snubbed in social environments. Any advice on that?
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I should really get involved in this.
I've recently stopped playing magic cards, so I need a new hobby?
Is Bondage expensive, typically?
I'm pretty poor.
Well, as in anything you get what you pay for. I mean, theoretically you could just use a nice cheap roll of duct tape, right?
Also, there has been some concern that a lot of BDSM scenes are really cliquish. I am pretty sensitive when it comes to being snubbed in social environments. Any advice on that?
Easy, but problematic solution: start your own.
More difficult, but better solution: Kidnap some BDSM folks against their will and force them to partake in your aforementioned self-started scene.
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Well, as in anything you get what you pay for. I mean, theoretically you could just use a nice cheap roll of duct tape, right?
I'm mostly just concerned about cover charges to get into fetish clubs and house parties and stuff like that. Do they typically serve alcohol? Alcohol can be really expensive.
As far as gear is concerned, I'm a bottom, so I don't think I need any gear.
Easy, but problematic solution: start your own.
More difficult, but better solution: Kidnap some BDSM folks against their will and force them to partake in your aforementioned self-started scene.
Yes, because then it's not rape, just "consent free sex". ::)
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I'm mostly just concerned about cover charges to get into fetish clubs and house parties and stuff like that. Do they typically serve alcohol? Alcohol can be really expensive.
As far as gear is concerned, I'm a bottom, so I don't think I need any gear.
Personally, I'd get some gear for yourself. Letting someone use their own gear on you is like letting some deal with their own cards in a poker game.
Easy, but problematic solution: start your own.
More difficult, but better solution: Kidnap some BDSM folks against their will and force them to partake in your aforementioned self-started scene.
I never said force them into sex, I just said force them to be a part of your group.
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So kidnapping is A-okay but rape is right out! :P
So that glad you have standards, CrystalDragon. :P
http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/EvenEvilHasStandards
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Most clubs/parties I know are bring your own booze Ronin. for cheap bondage get a packet of cable ties or some scarves. to see if there are any clubs near you look up munches on the net. its a good way of meeting others over a drink/meal.
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Most clubs/parties I know are bring your own booze Ronin. for cheap bondage get a packet of cable ties or some scarves. to see if there are any clubs near you look up munches on the net. its a good way of meeting others over a drink/meal.
Well, That depends on the event.
Obviously for a home party - Like an tupperware party with leather and rubber cocks - You're most likely going to have to bring your own booze, if it's a drinking sort of thing.
For Munches, most commonly, they're held in bars, pubs, or the like, and you can most likely buy booze on site, but sometimes it's held in non-booze venues - I've seen them held in churches before, which was always a laugh - but most likely, it's a pub, front up the bar, grab your grog and go.
For Larger events, Such as the Skin Two Ball(first example that popped into my head, but I wouldn't recommend them except recommending to avoid them, they're elitist CUNTS and that sort of thing on the scene needs to die in a fucking fire) they generally have a bar of some sort set up, because it's a fantastic money spinner for the event. Drinks will vary in price, but they'll be there, 99% of the time.
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Akasha, I'm curious!
How do you handle the aftercare of your subs? Do you have a specific schedule or do you just hug and pat and send them on their way?
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Akasha, I'm curious!
How do you handle the aftercare of your subs? Do you have a specific schedule or do you just hug and pat and send them on their way?
NEXT!
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CALLING NUMBER 57 YOUR TIME'S UP!!!!! (Dont worry Razzly just joking). My First either let me curl up and listen to my MP3 player at her feet until I had come out of my subspace or just let me hold her hand while I had my eyes closed.
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I will note that My old housemate - the Hambeast - Claims that she invented the term subspace(sorry, but no, you idiot, you're about twenty years too late, if not more) and used to constantly, now I just find the word annoying.
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CALLING NUMBER 57 YOUR TIME'S UP!!!!! (Dont worry Razzly just joking). My First either let me curl up and listen to my MP3 player at her feet until I had come out of my subspace or just let me hold her hand while I had my eyes closed.
D:
No disrespect to your Lady but that doesn't sound like very much at all! (Compared to what others have told me.)
It certainly wouldn't be enough for me to just hold her hand.
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well that was just me cause well I'm...............Odd even just holding her hand gave me a some degree of being close. but every one needs diffrent levels of after care.
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Okay I am going to ask this again, even though I asked it before and everyone ignored me.
How often do bondage sessions include sex?
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I don't know. Never been in one.
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It depends entirely on the participants. Some couples may have quite a lot others may have none.
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Aye what he above me said.
EDIT: Happy Happy Joy Joy, could be getting back with my First again ;D 8)
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Sigh.. well that's the end of another great adventure. I am once again bereft of someone to tie up, torture and pleasure all in the same go... Translation: My girlfried/slave and I have split up.
The question now becomes.. what's the best way about going about finding a replacement.?
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no idea chief I'm still looking :-\ (sorry to hear about the break up).
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Double post so does that mean I'll get a flogging from Mistress 'Kasha?
Well those long dormant subby feelings have risen to the surface once more so I'll be seeing some one about them in a few weeks time.
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Double post so does that mean I'll get a flogging from Mistress 'Kasha?
That sounds hopeful...
Well those long dormant subby feelings have risen to the surface once more so I'll be seeing some one about them in a few weeks time.
Woop, nice one Odd! (Yup I'm in the mood for some random encouragement)
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Aye you can always hope about the first one but the day my threshold is about to be put back to the test is fast approaching.
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OH NO NOT ANOTHER DOUBLE POST BY ME!! :o :o all I can say is back under the thumb again with a wonderful Mistress :)
(This could mean a flogging from Mistress Akashayi lol)
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Heh, you'd better watch out. (http://dl.dropbox.com/u/2126801/dotto/icon_whip.gif)
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Something about your work hours tells me Odd's unfortunately quite safe 'kasha XD
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Yeah but she has special Ninja powers that out match my Highland Sniper skills :(
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Ok another double post on a outdated thread but needs must.
Saw my Mistress the other day and She had a friend................................my poor backside got flogged (and with other impliments used) black and blue and still feeling the stripes now. They both are hard hitters :o
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Naughty you ;)
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sounds like fun ;)
hope you got proper aftercare
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I was playing Tera and found Akasha's hideout.
these are the directions!!
Akasha's Hideout Teleportal is located in Fyrmount.
From Castanica, use the teleport master Nelini to teleport North to Firebase Valor. Then travel south-east to reach the Teleportal. The teleportal is inside a little cave. Or you can purchase a Akasha's Hideout Teleport Scroll from any Specialty Store vendor.